I’ve spent a lot of time talking with teenagers one-on-one and in small groups, something I love to do due to their ability to be “real” and honest with me- mostly.
We talk about all kinds of things like family, self-esteem, dealing with gossip and more. What do you think they feel is the greatest problem they face?
Teens want to know how to deal with it. They want to know how to get away from it. They know that if they tell their friends “no” to something, then they’re be made fun of, talked about, or even shunned. This, of course, tends to make them want to give in just so they can fit in.
I feel bad about that. I know how it feels. However, there was one thing that recently dawned on me. Many times teens blame their friends for something they really want to do; they may not even realize it.
Take smoking pot for instance (one of the biggest deals to date). Teens may start because a friend asked them to, but why don’t they stop? Some say because of the peer-pressure, but let’s be honest- many don’t for the simple reason that they just don’t want to. What a revelation. This changes everything.
I wonder: Do teenagers even realize this is the case? Have they been blinded into thinking that it’s their friends fault? Or is possible that they really do know that it’s just something they “want” to do and are using their friends as a cover?
If you or someone you know fits this description then I ask you to open your eyes. I beg you to take your mask off and really look at yourself and why YOU chose to do what you do… don’t blame others anymore.
This is YOUR life, now own it.